So you’re a bridesmaid or maid of honor. Now what?
First time as a bridesmaid? Know what the job entails. (Hint: It’s not just planning parties and holding bouquets.)
Ok, you’ve got the basics. Here are the “extra” duties you may not expect (and they may not always be so fun…). From being the designated bride buddy on bachelorette night to helping the bride pee (eek!).
Being a bridesmaid costs money…and sometimes quite a lot of it! How to deal with the sticky subject of budget, keep costs down and still be there for your best friend. Plus, that thing you want to do but really really shouldn’t.
A bit of a humorous twist on your bridesmaid duties and a matching pledge for the bride. You promise to hold your tongue if you do not like the flowers, venue, and/or color scheme she picks for her wedding and she pledges to make no demands, as friends do not demand things of each other. (Plus, downloadable PDFs!)
Bridal shower and bachelorette down, but what exactly are you going to be doing the day of the wedding?
So it’s your first time as a bridesmaid? No sweat! Being a bridesmaid can be a lot of fun, a lot of work, a pain in the butt—or a little of all three. Here are the 5 things to keep in mind to set you up for bridesmaid success + resources for all your duties.
A complete list of everything you’ll need on the wedding day, including some tips for making everything run smoothly.
As a member of the wedding party, can I bring a date? And more importantly, should I? I know I’ll be with the bride for long periods of time, so what can I do to make the wedding a good experience for my date too?
From making an appointment (yep, you need one) to being prepared for only a few sizes to be in stock to knowing how far in advance you’ll need to order, we break down your bridesmaid dress adventure.
Chiffon, charmeuse and shantung have you in a swirl? Navigating bridesmaid dress fabrications can seem daunting, especially your first time. What exactly is peau de soie and for god’s sake what will it feel like? This guide breaks down all the most popular bridesmaid dress fabrics, including what they look and feel like and what types of occasions they are best for.
Breaks down the maid of honor speech to help you write the perfect toast for your best friend on her special day. We go through simple ways to start and end the speech and help with brainstorming that tricky middle section.
Do bring a glass up with you (after all, you are giving a toast) but don’t use inside jokes or share stories you wouldn’t want to tell the bride’s grandmother. Important points to keep in mind while writing and delivering your speech.
Need some help with trying to figure out what exactly your speech should be about? Try using these questions as a jumping off point and you’ll have a heartfelt, funny speech prepped in no time.
Your best friend is getting married. You’re her maid of honor. It’s all great. You’re ecstatic. Except for one little problem: You HATE public speaking. Well girl, it’s time to face your fear. Giving a toast at the reception is part of your responsibility as a maid of honor. And you CAN do it.
The Bachelorette and Bridal Shower
Before the wedding day, your bridesmaid responsibilities are going to revolve around the bridal shower and bachelorette party. Here you’ll find step-by-step planning guides, party games and lots of info and advice. For more inspiration, check out our Parties section to see beautiful events from around the world!
Who hosts the bridal shower and who is responsible for the cost? How much should you spend on a shower gift—and do you have to send one if you aren’t attending? Should we surprise the bride? Can the groom attend? You’ve got questions about etiquette, themes, games, food, hosting and attending a bridal shower—we’ve got answers.
Need a party theme? We got you covered.
A detailed breakdown on how to put together a getaway weekend for all her best girls, including when to start planning, how to split up expenses and lots of tips to save you stress along the way.
Bachelorette expenses can add up quickly, so here are a few ways to keep costs down for everyone while still creating a memorable, kickass bachelorette party.
Looking for inexpensive and easy but gorgeous party decorations? You know, something that’s going to look awesome but doesn’t require power tools and an MFA? We’ve got ideas—50 of em, to be exact.
Looking for a signature drink for a bachelorette party? A perfect tea party meal? A show-stopping cake (that you actually bought at the grocery store and then just prettied up with a few quick tricks)? We’ve got it (and more).
When it comes time to plan the bachelorette, step one is deciding where to go. Do you imagine yourself lounging on the beach? Partying in the club? Around a campfire under the stars? Consult our list of the 25 best bachelorette destinations to find the perfect fit.
Pack smart and chic with this complete bachelorette party packing list (there’s even a printable PDF)!
Who is invited to the bridal shower? Can I invite people who aren’t invited to the wedding? Can men attend the bridal shower? Can my mom come to the bachelorette? These and other tricky invitation questions, answered.
The bride wants to invite all her closest friends…but planning a dinner or getaway weekend for 20 people can be overwhelming! We came up with a few party ideas that work well for large groups and won’t cause you to have a breakdown.
Don’t get me wrong, I love Victoria’s Secret. But since it’s the go-to for so many women, there’s a good chance the bride may already have the item you purchase or another guest will pick it out too. Here, a few brands outside the norm, beyond the pink stripes, that will allow you to gift her with something completely unique and unexpected.
A little advice for the bride. If you’re dreading opening your gifts in front of all your guests and the inevitable “circle of presents,” this article is for you!
A gift that keeps on giving—8 bottles of wine to uncork for 8 milestone events in her marriage. Collaborate with a few other bridesmaids to put this gift together and attach our 8 original poems (you won’t see these anywhere else) for events like her wedding night, first home or just because.
The great news about this game is that the bride already did half the work for you, and she doesn’t even know it! To create a hilarious and personalized Mad Lib game to play at the bachelorette or bridal shower, simply head to the bride’s wedding website and transform the couple’s “About Us” into a party game.
A modern update on a classic shower game. Score points for sharing photos of the bride in a white dress, lose points for the ex’s still in your contacts. Two versions, one appropriate for a bridal shower and one that’s a bit more racy for the bachelorette.
This bachelorette game is based on the board game Five Second Rule, so if you’ve ever played, you already know the basics. Each card asks you to name 3 of something in 5 seconds, so you’ll have to name things like three wedding destinations, three celebrity couples or three stripper costumes. It may seem simple, but the short time limit will lead to some pretty hilarious answers as people are forced to spit out the first thing that comes to mind.
A fun printable lists of dares and challenges to make your night out on the town extra memorable.
A great game to play with a superclose group of friends. You’ll be surprised to find out who you really think is most likely to have kids first, get married next…or hook up with someone this weekend!
Send the groom-to-be a list of questions before the party, then challenge the bride “Newlywed Game” style.
Let’s face it, a lot of bridal shower games are just…terrible. Here, five simple bridal shower games that won’t require hours of preparation (or toilet paper) and that may actually be funny.
Let’s face it: You can only fill out a zany, mildly inappropriate mad lib or wrap a grown woman in toilet paper so many times before you start to feel ridiculous. But what never gets old? Winning things! For the bride who doesn’t want cheesy bridal shower games, but does want a small interactive activity at her shower, try wedding scratch-off cards!